Today we ask that you examine your stress response.
Are you someone who gets very worked up over things? Or are you someone who stays calm?
One is not superior to the other. In fact, the calm person may be suppressing emotion in an unhealthy way.
The key to a healthy stress response is as follows:
Give yourself permission to feel the feeling. Anxiety, frustration, anger, helplessness — whatever comes up for you. Give yourself permission to feel the feeling.
Then ask: “How can I feel better?”
You do not need to answer this question. Just keep asking it.
So there are two steps.
First, you give yourself permission to feel the feeling.
Second, you ask: “How can I feel better? or “How can this situation get better?”
If you keep asking, an answer may occur to you. Or else you will suddenly find that you feel better.
This is a very simple process. But if you remember to do this when you encounter stressful stimuli, it will cut down significantly on your physical stress response.
The physical stress response is the cause of much mental and physical illness. It is also the cause of much strife between people.
A healthy stress response is in proportion to what is happening. If you are in a life or death situation, a strong stress response is useful.
But if you are having an intense stress response from sitting in traffic or reading a text message, then this is harmful. It is harmful to you, and it is harmful to those around you.
So it is good to develop a practiced response to stress.
When a stressful situation arises, give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling. And really give yourself time to feel the feeling — do not gloss over this part. Do not suppress the feeling. Give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling.
Then ask: “How can I feel better?” or “How can this get better?”
Keep asking until the situation improves. You will find that it almost always does. If it does not, let yourself feel the feeling again. Then simply ask, “How can I feel better?” or “How can this get better?”
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Yesterday while I was channeling I asked how to feel better when I’m feeling anxious and I feel I have a knot in the neck, and I recieved this answer: “You are always priorizing others before you (we both know you are this way most of the time) so take this knot in the neck and make it an external problem, a foreign problem, make it someone else’s problem. Think that someone is suffering in a quite “stupid” way and help him/her. That is your work”. And then said “goodbye” like if it was a phone calling or something! I really laughed, sometimes all this stuff is funny, isn’t it? :DD
That is hilarious! And brilliant. That’s actually a great insight. So — did you try it?
Immediatly! I replayed what does goodbye mean and said: “you have to practice. Do you realize you do like to have this knot in the neck? You can let it go everytime you want as long as you treat yourself as you deserve to be treated. You have to practice”. And I practiced of course! The result was so great that I do this exercice whenever I can.
That’s amazing, Maria. That shows so clearly that the guidance is “real” — it works!
I have been reading all of your posts. Everything, you have so brilliantly, expressed, hurts my heart. I have been trying to understand and comprehend the games that people play. I know that life is not fair. I have experienced and observed the cruelty. I feel blessed that my children and dog are amazing! Their love and compassion have made the world a better place. I read Shakespear, poems and biographies with appreciation. I see colors and all art forms. I’m not restricted by fine art alone. I have read the letters and obituaries that are tucked in classic books and bibles etc. I hope that people, all people, can find their way in making their lives better. I have heard the words and felt the last beat of people from all walks of life. It’s an honor. I have learned that it’s our individual capacity that allows the next move. It’s o.k.
Thank you!