Today we ask that you examine the idea of “specialness.”

“Specialness” is so much a part of your culture that most of you do not question it.

“Specialness” simply means that some things are better or more important than others.

So, in your world, there are special people.  Celebrities, the very wealthy, people who win prizes, politicians, athletes — such people are considered “special” in your reality.

That is why so many people crave nothing more than to become rich and famous.

Specialness is very insidious.

Parents wish their children to be more special than other children.

People fantasize about special romantic relationships — so much so the they are closed off to the real, true relationships that are right in front of them.

People get hung up on “special days.”  Weddings, bar mitzvahs, confirmations, holidays, birthdays, anniversaries.

People experience terrible stress around “special days,” for if these special days fall short of their fantasies, there is deep depression, and disappointment.

This is one of the causes of postpartum depression.  Women believe that motherhood and birth will imbue them with specialness.  When confronted with the all too mundane reality of parenthood, depression follows.

Notice this pattern in yourselves.

Do you have an obsession with specialness?

Are you especially interested in the lives of celebrities?

Do you fantasize about being a “special person”?

Do you fantasize about “special days”?  Weddings, holidays, birthdays, anniversaries.  The birth of a child.

Do you fantasize about your children being “special”?

As commonplace as all this is, the craving for specialness is a direct road to terrible misery.

This is why people get depressed around holidays, and other “special days.”

This is why people spend fortunes on weddings they can’t afford.

It is why they buy big, special houses they can’t afford, or send their children to special schools they can’t afford.

Specialness, specialness, specialness.

If you could let go of the craving for specialness, what deep,  lasting, profound peace you would feel.

How present you would be.

You would greet each day with equanimity.  Each day would be “special,” and no day would be “special.”

You would no longer fantasize about events in the future that will make you special.  You would not be let down and depressed when your fantasies do not come to pass.

You would be better parents to your children.

You would have a saner, more loving society.

All of this would happen if you could let go of your obsession with specialness.

And people would still do wonderful things.

They would do wonderful things, and not be driven mad — like so many of your celebrities, who have been driven mad by the addiction to specialness.

So just observe this behavior in yourself.  Notice how it operates inside of you.

If you observe it, it will lose its power.

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