Today we ask that you let go of the desire to “save” people.

Many people, with good intentions, get it in their heads that they need to be White Knights, and go out and romantically “save” people.  

Generally, this happens when you judge that someone’s life is lacking in some particular way, and you think you know the perfect solution to their problems.

Usually this is a recipe for a mess.

It is one thing if someone comes to you, and asks for help.  If that happens, and you have the ability and desire to help this person, then by all means do so.

But deciding to intervene in someone’s life, when that person has not asked for help, is in almost all cases a bad idea.

The rare exception to this rule is if someone is in severe physical and/or mental distress, and is in a state where he cannot ask for help.

However, generally speaking, when the situation is not extremely severe, deciding to intervene in someone else’s life without their permission is a misuse of energy.  It almost always backfires, and makes things worse.

This includes time spent thinking about how you could “fix” someone else’s life, if you only had the chance.  If only they would listen to your wisdom.

You cannot really ever know another person.  You barely know yourself — so how can you know another person?  All you know of that person is a projection.  A fantasy version of the person, who exists nowhere outside your mind, like a character in a movie.

Maybe in your fantasies you could do wonderful things to help this other person, and “fix” his or her life. But in reality, if you were King of the Universe and could magically control this person and get them to do what you think would be best for them, it would be a disaster.

Of course, the worst misuse of this kind of energy happens in parenting, where well-meaning parents attempt to “fix” children who are not, in fact, broken.

Maybe no one needs to be “fixed,” or “saved.”

If you find yourself filled with the magnanimous desire to “fix” or “save” people with your wisdom, here is what you can do:

Go look in the mirror.

Put all that “fixing” and “saving” energy into yourself.

That other person you want to “fix”?  Really, it’s you.  When you are imagining all the ways you can save other people, really it is yourself that you unconsciously desire to save.

So why not take a shortcut, and put that energy where it belongs.

Help yourself.  Work on You.

Once you get stable within your own consciousness, you might find that you no longer have the desire to “fix” anyone.

You might just find that you love and accept them as they are.

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