be patient

Today we ask that you be patient with the process.

Be patient with the process.

Modern humans tend to be very goal-oriented.  You want to get there now.  You cannot wait.  Everything needs to be done already.  It should have been done yesterday!  That package must be delivered today!

This is very destructive, and leads to a great deal of unnecessary stress, wasted energy, and exhaustion.

Good things in life cannot be rushed.  Everything takes its own time to properly grow and develop.

The seed becomes the plant in its own time.  It cannot be rushed in its process without being damaged.

The child grows into the adult in his own time.  He cannot be rushed in his process without being damaged.

If you wish to climb a mountain, you cannot rush to the summit.  You must ascend in gradual, measured stages.  You must make camps along the way, and acclimate to the altitude.  Those who do not proceed to the summit in gradual stages do so at great peril.

The Titanic was rushed in its voyage across the Atlantic.  What a waste that was.

All this rushing and impatience is a sign of collective anxiety.  People rush when they are nervous, edgy, and insecure.  

Often people who rush around in life pretend that they do so out of a kind of confidence — “Look at how fast I do things, see how powerful I am!”

But the teenager who speeds in his car says the same thing.  

Rushing is not a sign of confidence.  It is a sign of anxious insecurity.

Truly confident humans are generally quite measured and deliberate in their actions.  They do not waste energy.  When it is absolutely necessary to move with speed, they do so.  But only when it is necessary.  Truly secure people do not need to rush around all the time in order to prove that they’re worth something.

Secure people take their time.

This is evident in the act of lovemaking.  A good lover does not rush.  That is a sign of insecurity and immaturity.  A confident, experienced lover allows the process to take time.

So it is in life.

People who constantly rush and push and force their way in life are like unskilled lovers — insecure and immature.  Don’t mistake all that rushing and pushing as a mark of confidence. The rushing is an act, a front — as with the speeding teenager.  

People who allow things to take time, who are comfortable letting the process unfold naturally — they are good lovers of life.  They can enjoy the cup of coffee, the blooming flower, the sunset, the baby’s smile.  

That is the secure person.  Not the one who screams because his package is late.  

So keep this in mind.  Notice your level of patience — and impatience — around the process.

The Titanic did not sink because of any defect in its design.  It did not sink because of the iceberg.  It sank because it was rushed.