Today we ask you to let go of your grievances.

Many of you carry around a heavy burden of resentment toward particular individuals in your life.

They might be your parents.  Or a former lover — an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, an ex-wife or husband.  It might be your child.  It might be a former friend.

It might be someone you work with.  It might be a former boss, or a current boss.  It might be a coworker.  It might be a partner.

Most of you have people like this in your lives.  If you do not, count yourself very lucky indeed.

If you do carry someone like this around with you — some person against whom you hold a grievance — please know that no good will come from this resentment.

Such grievances are quite toxic.  Not for the person whom you resent, but for you.

Carrying around a grievance is like walking around with an infected wound, and doing nothing to heal it.  You do not apply antiseptic, you do not put on a bandage, you do not seek help or treatment.

For some, grievances can become quite gangrenous.  You lose a part of the self to the unhealed grievance — like someone losing a limb.  You are not a whole person, because of the grievance.

Some people die, because of their grievances.  Heavy grievances can in some cases lead to severe physical and/or mental illness.  

So what can you do about your grievances?

It is good, early in, to get everything off your chest.  Speak to a therapist, or work with a healer.  Write a long letter to the person, that you do not send.  This is not about them; it is about you, and your healing.  Allow yourself to fully feel the emotional trauma around the grievance.  Let yourself cry.

Once that is done, however, you must let it go.  

If you find yourself obsessively thinking about the person, stop.  Do not let your thoughts run away with you.  Take ten slow, deep breaths, counting each breath.  Go for a walk.  Get back into your body.  Do whatever you can to stop the train of thought before it takes over.

Do not complain about this person to your friends.  It is one thing to talk to a therapist, or healer.  But complaining to friends only serves to inflame the wound, and keep it from healing.

Do not allow yourself to obsessively think about the person.  This only inflames the wound, and keeps it infected.

The best treatment for a psychic injury is to treat it fully and deeply very quickly after it is inflicted — and then to let it rest.  Just like a physical wound.  Keep the area clean.  Do not pick at it, do not keep touching it.  That will prevent healing.  You must let it rest.  

Some of you may be carrying around many old, unhealed, infected psychic injuries.  The course of treatment is the same.

Excavate the old injury fully and deeply.  See a therapist, or a healer.  Write a letter to the person who injured you — one that you do not send.   Feel the emotions deeply.

But you must eventually find a completion point.  You must, sooner or later, stop.  Do not keep thinking about it.  Do not obsess over it.  Do not complain to others about it.  Do not pick at the scab.  Let it rest.  Let it go.

This is how to heal from psychic injuries, and let go of your grievances toward others.  Unhealed grievances are truly toxic.  Please, heal them.  Then let them go.

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